April 13th, 2010 – Happiness for Others, Happiness for Yourself

In struggling to find the balance of responsibility versus aspiration, certain things have come forward. Some are clarifying and helpful, others continue to make the pursuit of dreams more consistently muddled and confusing. There is a constant struggle of two voices, they argue like Smeagol and Gollum.

One says that happiness is possible, the other says settle. They argue with one another and then your own sanity becomes questionable. You find yourself your largest optimist while simultaneously hearing another voice that is nitpicking like an excessively pretentious film critic.

Where does the time come where you give up? The answer is never. Want to be cynical and say that’s a load of horse-feces? Well, then, I would like you to meet Yuichiro Miura. “Who the hell is Yuichiro Miura?” you ask. He is the man who in 2003 climbed Mount Everest. Okay, great job, but there are plenty of people who have done that. Have you tried doing that when you are 70 years old? This Japanese man defied expectations and odds and decided to climb Everest when most people are doing their word searches in Florida.

The key discovery is that there are requirements of being in a relationship, it is give and take. Without helping others, there is no reason others will help you or reasons you should help yourself. The balance of bringing happiness to others is pivotal to discovering happiness for yourself.

As you pursue the catharsis of completing your dream, you should be helping others to find theirs as well. Perhaps in the dual pursuit of your respective dreams, success can be found.

So what is your dream? How can I, or others around you, help you to achieve that dream? Even with a little verbal or moral support a dream can be further encouraged. Just when the cynic tries to come out, perhaps the time has come for Smeagol to have a chance.

Add comments below, let me know what your dream is and how I can help. I know this sounds excessively corny. I sound like a supporting animal in a Disney movie trying to help the princess, but it is something I feel compelled to do. Please, comment below, let me help, or e-mail me at fowlermovies@hotmail.com


One comment

  1. My dream is to be a loving wife to you, have our children, and either work part-time or be a stay-at-home mom, at least for the early years. I love you!

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